Why be afraid if you're not alone? Life is never easy, the rest is unknown. The song is by Gloria Estefan and the first time I heard it, all I could think about were the Vietnam veterans I spent so much time with including my husband. You are not alone fighting to heal PTSD just as you were not alone during combat.
Wednesday, June 17, 2020
Healing PTSD Coming Out of the Dark
PTSD healing awareness videos
In 2006 I created this video on Wounded Minds. Long before PTSD was in the news, families like mine were doing the best we could to make our veterans lives better. Sometimes we failed but after three decades, I'm still married. I still have no idea how other families do it when they know hardly nothing about PTSD. I knew almost everything and there were times when it was almost impossible to find hope. The key is to learn as much as you can, love as an active partner in their healing and find what works to make your lives better!This is from my old website, NamGuardianAngel. Go to Combat PTSD Wounded Times to learn more.
Wednesday, June 10, 2020
you may think you won, but God has other plans for what you deserve
EndingWounded Times
Wounded TimesKathie Costos
June 10, 2020
A few days ago I wrote about how this site was changing. I had to face the fact that the support I needed to keep going was never going to come. This started in 2007, but my work online began in 1993. My work with veterans dealing with PTSD started in 1982. In all those years, while where my heart is, never changed, the way I attempted to communicate changed many times.
Kathie,
I have wanted to for some time now to write the same first three paragraphs of you letter of today.
As you know, I read you every day. I know the struggle all too well. You are so absolutely correct about your feelings.
Yes, veterans organization seem to now days be all be about "themselves" Yes, I am talking about the so-called "veteran's charities" "These old as well as the new pop-up charities who think they have all the answers.Our Organization received IRS tax exemption in 1992 We were created by Vietnam Veterans of America Chapter 23 and I have served as Director ever since. My beginning salary was set by VVA23 at $200.00 per week. Over the years, my salary has never been more than $400.00 per week and, I have not taken any salary in the last 10 years.
To be completely honest, We still serve veterans but, I have come to realize, CHILDREN who have suffered from trauma is where my calling should be.
I am so happy to hear I am not alone and someone else who has the same experience as me, feels the same way. Now with the virus, donations are impossible and yet here I am left with 8 horses to feed. Horses my wife and I love and can't even think of giving up. Will there be help from veteran's groups. NO, HELL NO.
I respect you Kathie and wish you the very best. I think you are doing the right thing. Bob Bambury
This was my reply
Bless you Bob! I really needed to know that it is not just happening to me. You have been a blessing to veterans for far too long and earned the support, they refuse to give.
When Jesus sent out 72 with His 12 Disciples, this is what He told them.10 But when you enter a town and are not welcomed, go into its streets and say, 11 ‘Even the dust of your town we wipe from our feet as a warning to you. Yet be sure of this: The kingdom of God has come near.’ Luke 10
They will not hear us, or support us, but we must trust that God is ever faithful to what He asks us to do. I find it comforting to know that when we pray for help, He tries to send others to answer our prayers. Much like we have tried to do for all those in need. When they will not listen to what He is asking them to do, never lose faith in Him and shake the dust off your feet.
Reach out to where your heart is telling you that is where you need to be.
These are very dark days and more people will be hurting than ever before. This "harvest" is plenty but true workers are few. Follow where He leads and I will pray you find the support you have so long been denied!
With your permission, I would like to include part of your email in a post later today. No pressure and understandable if you do not want me to. You can also write what you want and I will include it. It is the beginning of the new mission today.
Monday, June 8, 2020
Lesson One: Take control of where you go from here
Survivors take control of the road after traumatic events
Wounded Times
Kathie Costos
June 8, 2020
First lesson to #TakeBackYourLife is to start right here...right now!
Mass murders stopped in minutes because of law enforcement
Open your eyes to what law enforcement also does
Wounded Times
Kathis Costos
June 8, 2020
Sandy Hook Elementary School and slaughter 26 children and educators last Dec. 14, and finally kill himself.
•9:35:39 The first 911 call to police was received.
•9:36:06, a dispatcher broadcast that there had been a shooting at Sandy Hook school.
•9:39:00 The first Newtown police officer arrived at the school. Two more officers arrived 13 seconds later. Gunshots were heard.
•9:39:34, a police officer encountered an "unknown male" running along the east side of the school.
•9:40:03, the last gunshot was heard.
USA Today
Pulse Nightclub (CNN)Here's a timeline of the deadliest mass shooting in U.S. history, when a gunman killed 49 people and wounded 53
1:58 a.m 320 people are enjoying a "Latin flavor" event at Pulse
2:02 a.m. ET: An officer working extra duty in uniform at the club hears gunshots and engages the shooter. Some 100 officers from the Orange County Sheriff's Office and the Orlando Police Department respond to the chaotic scene over the next 45 minutes.
Mandalay Bay Resort 58 people were killed and more than 850 injured when a gunman opened fire at a country music festival on the Las Vegas Strip on October 1, 2017.
10:05 p.m.: Paddock starts shooting out the window.
10:12 p.m.: Police inside the hotel start to close in.
10:15 p.m.: Paddock stops shooting out the window.
Sunday, June 7, 2020
Post Traumatic Survivors
Post Traumatic Survivors Define Themselves
Wounded TimesSaturday, June 6, 2020
This is my turning point
Wounded Times is changing
Wounded TimesAll too many have been, for 76 years since that fateful June 6 on France’s Normandy beaches, when allied troops in 1944 turned the course of World War II and went on to defeat fascism in Europe in one of the most remarkable feats in military history.
I Will RiseThere's a peace I've come to knowThough my heart and flesh may failThere's an anchor for my soulI can say "It is well"Jesus has overcomeAnd the grave is overwhelmedThe victory is wonHe is risen from the deadAnd I will rise when He calls my nameNo more sorrow, no more painI will rise on eagles' wingsBefore my God fall on my kneesAnd riseI will riseThere's a day that's drawing nearWhen this darkness breaks to lightAnd the shadows disappearAnd my faith shall be my eyesJesus has overcomeAnd the grave is overwhelmedThe victory is wonHe is risen from the deadAnd I will rise when He calls my nameNo more sorrow, no more painI will rise on eagles' wingsBefore my God fall on my kneesAnd riseI will riseAnd I hear the voice of many angels sing,"Worthy is the Lamb"And I hear the cry of every longing heart,"Worthy is the Lamb"And I hear the voice of many angels sing,"Worthy is the Lamb"And I hear the cry of every longing heart,"Worthy is the Lamb"And I will rise when He calls my nameNo more sorrow, no more painI will rise on eagles' wingsBefore my God fall on my kneesAnd riseI will riseSource: LyricFindSongwriters: Chris Tomlin / Jesse Reeves / Louie Giglio / Matt MaherI Will Rise lyrics © EMI Music Publishing
Friday, June 5, 2020
Storytellers Project "Bouncing back. Recovering. Getting help..."
Storytellers Project to stream show about never giving up
USA Today
Michelle Rogers
June 5, 2020
The USA TODAY Network's Storytellers Project will stream the show, part of its virtual season, at 8 p.m. EST on Thursday, June 11.
Bouncing back. Recovering. Getting help and getting on with it.
The Storytellers Project will celebrate resiliency in all of its forms during a show on June 11 from the USA TODAY Network.
“For so many reasons, now feels like a time when we could use stories of meaningful resilience in the face of adversity of all kinds,” said Megan Finnerty, founder and director of the Storytellers Project. “We are so fortunate to have storytellers willing to be vulnerable, and honest.”
The series, called “LIVE, In Your House," has been drawing hundreds of thousands of views since debuting April 2, when the COVID-19 pandemic started closing down venues where in-person shows had been held across the country. Shows are now streamed on the Storytellers Project’s Facebook page and YouTube channel.
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